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We (Still) Demand!

August 30th, 2011 Comments off

On August 28, 2011 Queer Ontario graced the steps of Parliament Hill in Ottawa to commemorate the 40th anniversary of We Demand, the first nation-wide rally in Canada where gay men and women got together to demand legal and social reforms from the federal government. As John Wilson, an original member of the rally, noted in his keynote speech on Sunday: while a number of reforms have been achieved in the 40 years since 1971, there is still a lot of prejudice that needs to be challenged and abolished, particularly on the part of government. This includes the government’s refusal to extend human rights protections to transsexual, transgender, and intersex individuals, as well as its insistence on criminalizing HIV transmission.

Indeed, it is worth remembering that the extension of marriage rights to same-sex or same-gender couples did not finalize the struggle for queer and trans rights but, rather, re-invigorated it, as we now fight for the rights of those who are marginalized by the expectation to marry and privatize our sexualities; and those whose identities, relationships and livelihoods have yet to be recognized and accommodated by government.

Special thanks go out to Susan Gapka, Michael Burtch, Melanie Pasztor, and Brent Bauer for lending us their voices and their words of inspiration in highlighting all the work that needs to be done to create a trans-embracing, queer-loving, and sex-positive Canada. A very special thanks to A.J. Lowik for giving voice to our Demands list; as well as the over 100 people who attended the rally and shared their demands and their experiences of discrimination with us.

We (Still) Demand — A Rally for Change on Parliament Hill

July 29th, 2011 Comments off


Queer Ontario is heading to OTTAWA!

On August 28, 1971, the first large scale ‘gay rights’ demonstration in the history of Canada was held on Parliament Hill in Ottawa and Robson Square in Vancouver. Demanding changes to the discriminatory laws that then restricted the lives of gay men and women, the protesters took to Parliament Hill and Robson Square with their list of demands. These included changes to the criminal code, such as:

1. The removal of the nebulous terms “gross indecency” and “indecent act” from the Criminal Code and their replacement by a specific listing of offences, and the equalization of penalties for all remaining homosexual and heterosexual acts; and defining “in private” in the Criminal Code to mean “a condition of privacy.”

2. Removal of “gross indecency” and “buggery” as grounds for indictment as a “dangerous sexual offender” and for vagrancy.

3. A uniform age of consent for all female and male homosexual and heterosexual acts.

While we have made many great strides in the LGBTQ rights movement in the 40 years since, we are still victims of oppression, degradation, and erasure in all aspects of social life. We are deliberately written out of citizenship guides, we are discouraged from sharing our life experiences in our classrooms or workplaces, we are denied the ability to donate blood, and we are continually given misdiagnoses by medical professionals who make misinformed assumptions about who we are and what we do. Not to mention, of course, a protection of our gender identities and gender expressions under the Canadian Charter of Rights. All of these issues persist because of a pervasive public ignorance around LGBTQ issues created in no small part because of an inability for our elected officials to recognize these injustices and to stand up for our rights.

As a result, we still have demands.

To commemorate the original rally, as well as make a loud and proud statement to many of the issues we still face today, Queer Ontario is holding a rally on Parliament Hill in Ottawa on Sunday, August 28th, 2011 and we want you to be involved! Here are two ways:

1. Add your demands to our list
Let us know your demands! Drop us a line at or post a comment on this post and let us know what demands you have for the Federal government for the betterment of the lives of LGBTQ persons and communities!

2. Attend the rally!
Show up to Parliament Hill on Sunday, August 28 @ Noon as we commemorate the original rally and set forth our new list of demands. Then, come march with us as we merge into the Capital Pride Parade.

So get to it! Send us your recommendations and/or join us for the rally. Collectively, we are still here and we still demand!

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Queer Ontario Invites All Ontarians to Consider the Implications and Limitations of ‘Family’ Day

February 20th, 2011 Comments off

On February 21, 2011 Ontario will mark its fourth Family Day—a new Provincial statutory holiday that Premier Dalton McGuinty proclaimed soon after winning a second term in office marking a re-election campaign promise. McGuinty’s announcement of the new holiday was described as an attempt to offset the intensifying conditions of work for many by granting an additional day to be spent with their family.

In a press release McGuinty assures us that he knows these are tough times and, further, that there is nothing more important than family. “There is nothing more valuable to families than time together. And yet it seems tougher than ever to find, with so many of us living such busy lives,” McGuinty said, announcing Family Day on October 11, 2007.

Besides facing a storm of controversy from labour unions and others over conflicting employment agreements and vague implementation plans (federal employees fall outside its jurisdiction) the promotion of a statutory holiday based on family time is heavily predicated on a mainstreamed secular symbolism of “family values.”

This notion of “family values,” long used by social and religious conservatives to deny queer and trans people their civil rights and freedom, is premised on a fundamentally narrow, exclusive, and fixed ideal of family, serving as an ideological traffic cop for the maintenance of a heterosexual reproductive monogamy. Although families can and do provide crucial and vital emotional succor for many individuals, families continue to be a site of violence, inequalities and exclusions for others.

Additional time off work is welcomed by many, yet the proclamation of a statutory holiday marked as “family” time is inevitably situated in a larger context in which families are regulated through state laws, social and institutional norms, and political decisions about the allocation of government funding. McGuinty’s proclamation is premised on the long-held illusion that the maintenance of “traditional family bonds” serves as a resolution to problems individuals face that are actually the result of poor policy decisions and larger economic, social and political forces. In the face of these other realities the convenient nostrum of the family as a “haven in a heartless world” doesn’t pass political muster.

A quick accounting of these problems can return us back to the realities that families and individuals face. In Canada in 2003, more than 75 percent of two-parent households relied on dual incomes. The challenge to single parents balancing paid work, childcare responsibilities and housework, is even more daunting. Additionally, statistics show that living single or in a variety of configurations not recognized in strict legal terms are growing over the past two decades. Feel-good statements are contradicted when we consider some of the real problems facing families and individuals in Ontario at present.

  • The March 2007 elimination of federal transfer payments for regulated childcare spaces
  • McGuinty’s lack of commitment to develop accessible and affordable childcare alternatives which exacerbate ongoing dearth of subsidized childcare spaces
  • Individuals and families subject to changing regulation from neoliberal policies especially since the mid-90s (i.e. welfare, ODSP and workfare policies).
  • Lack of human rights protection for people of transgender experience and families that include gender nonconforming children and youth.
  • Lack of equal protection in child custody cases for queer and trans parents
  • Widespread discrimination and invisibility faced by queer families and their children in government programs and education, etc.
  • Lack of support for alternative family forms that are not legally recognized (i.e. polyamorous relations, extended networks, blended, transnational families, etc.)
  • Enduringly homophobic and heterosexist social norms about optimal family forms and healthy childrearing

Queer and gender non-conforming individuals and communities have much at stake in how families are presented and discussed in our culture. Historically, we have faced massive forms of legal and social injustice in the way families are imagined and regulated. Although important gains have been made in the area of same-sex marriage and adoption rights, queers face ongoing discrimination and normative social pressure brought to bear whenever queer social life intersects with the arena of childrearing.

As such, the arena of queer family formation and parenting face undue social pressure to accommodate prevailing norms pertaining to children exacerbated by homophobia, heterosexist and cisgendered assumptions in an age of heightened anxiety with respect to child development. As children increasingly become a symbol for the reproduction of safe and secure futures, much social pressure is brought to bear on queer parenting and alternative family forms.

Advancing social justice in the arena of family and childrearing means attending to more fundamental issues. The family as a “private” space continues to be the site of domestic violence, reproduces homophobic, transphobic and cisgendered environments beyond public accountability, while circumscribing who “belongs” within its borders. A biological model of mandatory kinship disallows more voluntary relations from emerging. Children and youth continue to be seen as private parental property preventing the emergence of a more accountable public sphere for empowering young people’s participation.

Both queers and heterosexual people benefit when the conversation about families and parenting include parental practices that highlights diversity, voluntary kinship, open and flexible relations between children and their caregivers, the redistribution of domestic labour, and democratic participation in communities.

The image of strong families is increasingly used to symbolize the safe reproduction of existing social and economic arrangements that serve narrow interests.

The invocation of family values is designed to do some pretty extensive symbolic heaving lifting. And in so doing, serves to distance us from the complex and multidimensional power relations at work in shaping how people experience themselves and their families in broader social, political and economic contexts. We at Queer Ontario seek to revitalize a critical dialogue about fundamental issues that affect the shape of families and intimate relations toward the alleviation of ongoing discrimination and inequalities.